The Worst Nightmare of the Diet Industry & Eight Year Old Boys Everywhere
Posted by RobinMar 26
A couple of bits of business before I tell you about the terror I’ve been unleashing on the world this week.
First, have you fed some dogs and cats yet? Kathie, Marianne, Pam and Allison have. What’s your excuse?
Second, I have been inundated with blog spam of late. Luckily, I’ve got a good spam-catcher. Unfortunately, it also catches messages for first-time commenters. If you’ve left your first comment recently and it hasn’t appeared in a prompt manner, it’s because I’m weeding through all the ads for litter boxes, fake designer handbags and garden fountains.
Third, Wilco just added a third St. Louis show. Not that this has to do with anything, aside from the fact that I’m reaching a level of excitement that might not be conducive to me doing anything else for the next two months.
Fourth, I’m on the verge of getting that food blog I’m doing with OtherRobin up and running. Hopefully by the end of today.
And now, that reign of terror I’m wielding. Don’t worry – it’s a fun reign of terror.
I had my annual physical yesterday. Since my panic and anxiety issues have decreased exponentially since the move last June, I haven’t seen my doctor in nearly a year. I think that might be a record. It seems that all of my parts are in good working order, (”What do you mean, you’re not having anymore kids? You’re going to let that perfectly good uterus go to waste after all the hard work I did to make it function? You bitch!” Not my doctor’s exact words, but not much of an exaggeration, either.) Even though the scales tipped at a number that the media would have you believe would leave me bedridden, suffering three heart attacks a day, and I have a condition that often causes uncontrollable weight gain, all of my systems are in good working order. We had a conversation that went something like this:
Doc: Your weight is always stable, aside from a very gradual, steady loss of a few pounds every year. How are you doing that?
Me: I dunno? A diet that’s a good balance of healthy food and dip?
Doc: And you’re blood pressure is always a perfect 120/74 even though you haven’t taken blood pressure medication in years. How are you doing that?
Me: I dunno. Beer?
Doc: Your pulse rate is excellent for anyone, and rare for a person of your size. How are you doing that?
Me: I dunno. The exercise I got while shaking my boobs at karaoke on Saturday, maybe?
Doc: Your heart sounds excellent. How are you doing that?
Me: I dunno. Lack of use?
Doc: Know what? There’s not a damn thing wrong with you. I don’t expect to see you for another year.
Me: I know.
So I’m that person the media and diet industry loathes – I’m *gasp* a healthy fat girl!
Yeah, I could be in better shape. I’m not going to be running any marathons. Some friends of mine are participating in a triathalon this summer. My participation will involve sitting in a lawn chair in front of the Mars Cheese Castle, eating a chunk of 6-year cheddar and drinking Bell’s Beer while cheering my sweaty pals. But still. I wouldn’t collapse if I had to participate. Well, I might collapse, but I probably wouldn’t end up hospitalized, which is pretty damn good, don’t you think?
So, in regards to my health, Queen Latifah and her diet ads can kiss my huge ass.
But then today, there was a smidge of ugliness upon taking Clara Jane to school. A lot of the local schools are on spring break right now, which means a lot of parents are dropping the little kids off at preschool with the bigger kids in tow. When I was getting out of my truck, a minivan pulled into the spot next to me. Every single door opened, and eight-year-old mud-splattered boys poured out like clowns from a VW at the circus. Just about as terrifying, too. How the hell can they be that mud-splattered at 9:30 AM when there’s not any splatterable mud in the area? There was one adult in charge of oh, I don’t know, I’d estimate about 289 boys and one toddler.
I took Clara Jane to her classroom then headed to the office to sign her in. While doing so, I noticed the one adult – a skinny little blonde woman in full makeup, cute outfit and spangly beaded flip-flops, chit-chatting with a cute dad while the 289 boys body slammed each other. Which is a slight exaggeration, but you know that when you have a a pack of exuberant kids you’re only a few seconds away from some body slamming at any given moment. I was none too thrilled about having to navigate through them on my way out, but so what? They’re kids. I’m a parent. I win.
Well, not really. Instead, they planted themselves in my path, walking very slowly and yelling, “There’s a fat lady behind us! There’s a fat lady behind us! There’s a fat lady behind us!”
Unfortunately, since they were children, I couldn’t use my standard retort that I use on the rare occasion when some jackass has something to say about my size: “That’s right. And when your friends ask you what the fuck happened to your face, I hope you’ll inform them that you got the shit beat out of you by a fat lady.” For some reason, that response didn’t seem appropriate for the situation. So I just ignored the little fleas and pushed past. Maybe pushed a little harder than I should have.
See, this is something I’ve never understood – picking on fat people. Chances are, if you’re picking on a fat person, they can kick your ass! I just wish more of us fat folks had the confidence to do just that.
When I got to my truck, the pack came running for the minivan, their minder nowhere in sight while they sprawled into the busy parking lot. At this point, I know I can’t fully hold the kids responsible for their rudeness. They’re kids who, at this moment in time, were pretty much being ignored by the one adult responsible for them. When she eventually came out and flashed me an “I’m sorry” look for the kids blocking traffic, I used all of my restraint to keep from rolling down my window and informing her of the ill manners I witnessed from her pack of little fly-lords. She obviously had enough on her hands.
But at the same time, as a parent I would want to know if my kid was being a mean-spirited little snot. Because if the kids are willing to act that way with an adult, how in the world are they treating peers who don’t meet their criteria of rightness when the adults aren’t looking? If I see the mom when I pick up Clara Jane, and if she’s not being carried off to a boiling cauldron by her charges, I may pull her aside and let her know what happened.
And if she says one word about my weight, I’m pulling out my clean bill of health and beating the fuck out of her with it.
22 comments
Comment by Courtney Watson on March 26, 2008 at 9:55 am
What a freakin nightmare! You should definitely say something to the mother with severe ADD.
Congrats on being big-n-healthy (doesn’t that sound like dog biscuits or something..?)!! My goddamn doctor likes to precribe medication (which is sometimes fabulous- HELLO MUSCLE RELAXERS!) and then tell really bad jokes. This has yet to cure my never ending sinus infection or whatever, which I’ve had for about 8 months now?
Comment by Kathie on March 26, 2008 at 11:52 am
I have been getting dozens of spam each day to my blog too. Often it is just gibberish.
I teach ninth grade, and I honestly have no patience for nasty kids.
Comment by Sally on March 26, 2008 at 12:49 pm
I was at a soft play place the other day adn this angelic looking blonde moppet of a 4 year old came up to me and tugged my top – I looked down and said “yes sweetie?”. “You’re fat” she said.
“You’re mean” I said and walked off! Mother fuck! Her mom was a stickinsect wearing designer sweat pants and 3 layers of makeup. Poor kid…..
Comment by Wendy on March 26, 2008 at 12:56 pm
Thanks. I enjoyed that. Jumped off Ravelry. I’m a healthy fat person as well. Drives them docs nuts. I have lost some weight, but even when I was 70 pounds heavier, I still had no issues.
Comment by Other Robin on March 26, 2008 at 1:06 pm
God forbid there be a next time, but if so just say “I may be fat but you’re ugly. Fat can be lost but ugly is forever.” Oh yeah, and point out the mom to me. If she’s in Gryffin’s class I will stick a bag of doop in her kids lunch box at the end of the day. Make a nice little treat for her when she goes to clean it out. That or we could stick salad shrimp down the air vents on her hood, or a bumber sticker that says ‘Honk if you think my kids are ass holes’.
Vindictive, me?
Comment by Katrina on March 26, 2008 at 1:38 pm
Hey! Why don’t I get any spam for fake designer handbags? I could totally start illegally selling them on eBay and at flea markets!
I would have told that woman off anyway, screw any sympathy! And maybe kicked her in the shin or something. You were much nicer than I would have been.
Comment by Susan on March 26, 2008 at 2:01 pm
Congrats on being a healthy fat chick! Your living proof that you don’t have to be stick thin to be healthy. In fact, many supposed healthy skinny people are heart attacks waiting to happen.
OMG on those brats! I wouldn’t have been so sympathetic. Obviously that woman is lacking in parental skills to have such little bastards for kids. I like the OtherRobin’s saying about ugly vs. fat.
I’m getting a lot of spam of late too. Lots of those “hey” subject line from what I swear someone just went alpahabetical down a phone book listing. Annoying as hell!
Comment by Aubrey on March 26, 2008 at 2:45 pm
I agree with your other readers about the mom of those nasty kids. One, she needs to know. Two, they get that kind of attitude from somewhere. Congrats on being a healthy fat chick! I was one for years, drove my doctor crazy. Now that I’m not so healthy? Everything is because I’m fat. Seriously, they completely ignore that I have PCOS and several other things wrong that have nothing to do with weight. Anyway, I’m so glad that you didn’t let those brats bother you.
Comment by allison on March 26, 2008 at 3:06 pm
Oh, why didn’t you say, “That’s right, boys! And now I’m going to eat you!” and lunge at them?
My retort to kids who teased me for being short/ugly/smart/dorky/poor/flatchested/a virgin was always “Yeah, but I’m still smarter than you. Slut.”
Comment by Mike on March 26, 2008 at 3:38 pm
I’ll inject a little testosterone into the comments. Were the boys rude? Yep, but that’s 8 year old boys. It’s a right of passage for those of us with dangly-bits to make fun of others. Unfortunately it doesn’t stop until our late 20’s. Ironic when most of us turn into the things we have made fun of all our lives, fat, a geek (when being a geek was still uncool) etc.
It’s worse when they have perceived strength in numbers. That and they could likely outrun most adults.
The parent? No excuse.
- The fat loser geek up the street.
Comment by Maudie on March 26, 2008 at 4:43 pm
I don’t think the problem is the word “fat”. I tell my nieces and nephew all the time that yes, I’m fat, but it’s the “healthy” part that’s more important. And when tiny kids who don’t know any better say that I’m fat, I’m OK with that, because they’re just talking about what they observe.
Eight year olds know better, though. They mean to be hurtful when they say that shit, and their parents should definitely be called on allowing their kids to act like that.
Comment by mel on March 26, 2008 at 5:17 pm
I love your photos of Clara Jane for Easter
They are ultra cute. It’s not your doctors business to comment when you say you don’t want more children.
Hmm..so Wilco…basically we should do a pre-cookout. lol..course I’ll be stuffed from the amazing food we will be eating the entire time I’ll be down. I may have to take out a loan to afford all the food. lmao
Comment by Dixie on March 26, 2008 at 5:30 pm
People making rude comments to one another in order to boost their own flagging self image is the time when I like to remember that whatever you send out into the universe will come home again.
I believe it’ll come home for those kids when they’re about 38 and they’re drowning in beer gut fat.
Comment by Robin on March 26, 2008 at 5:31 pm
Nothing brings out comments like a fat post!
Courtney, perhaps I should call the dog biscuits I’m making “Robin’s Big n’ Healthy Treats”. Although that sounds like I might be selling something entirely different.
Sally, I’d like to slap that mom on your behalf. With a kid that age, there’s only one way they would know to use the word “fat” as an insult. I’ve never heard Clara Jane or any of her friends use it that way, and I know their parents would put them in time out until their hair turned gray if they did. I think that’s what bothered me most about this.
Robin, I thought about using, “I may be fat but I still take up less space than you and that Lexus SUV,” which is what she was driving this afternoon. I saw her arriving when Clara Jane and I were leaving. The boys were limping and Mom had a coffee stain on her white capri pants that reached from her ass cheek to her knee. I figured she’d dealt with enough for one day, so I let her be.
Allison, I’m adding that to my list of comebacks. Threatening to eat them? Awesome!
Mike, I definitely agree with the pack mentality. I think the same can be said for eight-year-old girls, though. They’re pretty fucking vicious.
Maudie, I agree. I have no problem with the word “fat”. It’s a word, and it’s a descriptive one. It’s all about the tone. There’s been a discussion this week on a board I frequent about using the word “fluffy” as a euphemism for fat. I’m of the mind that I’d rather be called fat than some cutesy, patronizing euphemism. I’m not a sheep, dammit!
Mel, yeah, not my doctor’s place to comment, but I love her regardless. Considering I wasn’t supposed to be able to get pregnant, I have a feeling that she looks at my uterus and thinks, “I did all that work to get that thing working and she’s only going to use it once? What the fuck?”
Dixie, I’m with you on taking the high road. I’m glad I didn’t go with my initial reaction, which was to go off. Then I just would have been the angry, bitter fat lady. Besides, seeing how that gang looked at the end of the day? It looked like the universe was doing its job just fine.
Comment by Summer on March 26, 2008 at 5:52 pm
Oh my dear, sweet, deep-fried jesus—I think I just got a crush on Allison. Well, on her comment at least.
Eight-year-old boys are the pits. And, also, from one mom to another: if the opportunity presents itself, definitely tell the boy’s (boys’?) mom what happened. Me, I always want to know when my kid is being a dick. It’s the only way I’ll ever know if my parenting is working, and, more importantly, it’s the only way to prove to my kid that I really do have eyes and ears everywhere and that, bwa-ha, he really can’t get away with anything.
Comment by Courtney Watson on March 26, 2008 at 7:41 pm
Well I will just call everything you make “Robin’s Big n Healthy Treats”. I’m already designing a logo (;
Hoo wa!
Comment by Kathy on March 27, 2008 at 3:13 am
Ugh. I know kids will be kids and all, but if they’re old enough to be in school, they’re old enough to know that’s not nice.
A couple of pre-teens were walking behind me at a shopping center a few weeks ago during that cold spell, and one of them said, “Gawd, wouldn’t want to look like her.” (I didn’t look any particular way but bundled up. I’d rather be warm and unfashionable than cold and trendy, by the way.)
Comment by Amy in StL on March 27, 2008 at 10:52 am
Boys suck. Yup, that’s it.
Comment by pharmgirl on March 27, 2008 at 4:57 pm
Honey, no jury would convict you.
***smooches****
Comment by beqi on March 27, 2008 at 8:16 pm
They’re just sad they weren’t old enough to see you flash the audience this weekend. That mom can either get her head out of her ass now, or she can visit them in jail later. A lot.
Where Eddie and Gryffin will be beating the crap out of them.
Comment by Liz C. on March 29, 2008 at 7:23 am
Yowza! Congrats on your moste excellente health! if it’s beer and dip doing those things for you, I’m starting the RobinDiet right…NOW.
Ahh, little boys. I shall just roll my eyes and sigh in sympathy.
Oooooh! you’re gonna be in Kenosha this summer?!?!?! There is an adorable wee yarn shop mere blocks from my house, and many smashing italian delis… (along with eleventy jillion bars) I’d love to meet you, but I dunno if that’d make you uncomfortable… but if you’re interested, I can point you in the direction of cool stuff in the area, at least.
Comment by Jill on April 1, 2008 at 11:16 am
Kudos to you for not slapping each one of those little boys on the head, which is exactly what they deserved. I definitely think you should say something to the mom – considering the other behavior, she probably doesn’t care – but if she does, at least she can do something about it.
Cheers to your good health!